- Not The Only One!
- Post # 160
- 05 Dec 24
- ” Two Lies And A Truth”
- Howdy!
- Have you ever set down and just thought about the number of lies that you have told over the course of your life time? Don’t forget the half trues, which are actually full falsehoods. No!!, you don’t get to leave out the little white ones , which you considered harmless ☺️☺️. Surely we should get a pass on the ones we told our kids, when they were little, and perhaps now, when they aren’t so small ☺️☺️. Well, we can’t actually put Santa Clause in the same category with the whoppers that politicians say….can we?. Ok, how about the one’s we tell people to spare their feelings. You weren’t actually not feeling well, you just didn’t like the whoever that was asking you to go wherever and to do whatever ☺️☺️☺️. Yeah!, hindsight wasn’t thought out on that one to well, because they are probably going to ask again, and it’s just flat out tacky to try and use the same excuse twice, especially back to back☺️☺️. There are just way more scenarios for getting ourselves into a good lie, than there are stars in the sky! Wait , just a minute, can that be true? because I’ve heard that number is up in the billions!☺️ God created the stars and knows each one by name and He knows the exact number, but lies continue to build up more and more with each passing second ☺️☺️.
- It seems that there are just endless possibilities for us to tell a fabrication , but one day , that will come to pass and it will be brought to a swift conclusion. ☺️ We also have those incidental lies, where we are pretty sure that something is going to go one way, but it just hasn’t been finalized yet. You get suspended at work for some reason, you know the why ☺️☺️. They frame it as pending an investigation, but they tell you to clean out your desk, well the investigation may be pending, but you are done my friend, just straight up stick a fork in you. ☺️☺️. The incidental lie was to let you believe that there was still a chance that you were employed per investigation ☺️☺️You see lies are like roaches or vermin, if you see one, then there are more. ☺️ It’s like they were just never meant to travel alone. The problem with lies is that they have a tendency to have off spring and at times resembles a great avalanche as they are rolling down hill on you. There are never just two, but each sequential one becomes more elaborate than the previous one as they take on a life of there own. We forget that truth is foundational and is usually anchored to something hard core such as facts, history or some indisputable evidence. This is not true with lies as they are much more fluid and unpredictable. They can be like a dormant sleeping volcano and we just never know when it may possibly wake up and erupt. Sometimes it gives us rumblings that something is a midst and that may very well be the opportunity to try and appease it with a fresh round of newly fabricated lies , but I can’t remember who I told what to☺️☺️☺️. Yeah!!, that’s a little troubling. Yes, it’s true they take on a life of their own as they take over your life and you find yourself headed for some cosmic melt down , which will surely expose you as a fraud of some sort.
- This can’t be it, can it? Am I just done? Oh wait, I remember something about taking it to the grave and that thing about dead men tell no lies….wait ! , does that mean I have to die, or just something close to death? ☺️☺️. Maybe the crazy part is I can’t remember how this got started in the first place, or why I originally told the lie, it’s like one of those old family feuds that goes back for decades, and we just can’t get the facts straight on its origin. More importantly how did I get allllll the way over here from there?
- How about a couple of extreme examples. Is it ok to lie to someone on their death bed or someone, let’s say a stranger that you are absolutely , a hundred billion percent sure that you will never run into again, well at least not in this life time, but they could be keeping a seat warm for you down the road, where, let’s just say heat isn’t in short supply ☺️☺️. I mean that sounds really tough or an impossible place to be or to answer that kind of a question. I think maybe a parent on a death bed and they ask you to promise them something that might be for the right reasons, but totally done in the wrong way. What am I suppose to do with that?
- What if it’s one of those wacky movie scenes where someone gets hit by a bus and you run to assist the situation and in there shock, they think that you are a jilted lover and they ask you if you love them….what do you say? Is it OK to lie to them so they can have a peaceful bon voyage, or to save them from further going into shock , It just sounds crazy, the one with the parent…maybe! It’s like here we go again , if I make a death bed promise and have absolutely zero intentions on keeping it, it’s not really like a lie because they won’t be here to know it….. right? ☺️Believe it or not, I faced that choice and it was not an easy call, and to be honest I just felt as if I failed both them and myself and it’s something that will be with me for the rest of my days.
- Most won’t cover or find themselves in such a predicament and will probably have trouble relating to the example. Sometimes life will supply us with a next best option, which can be neutral or positive, but just makes so much more of a lasting impression when it’s not☺️☺️. Here’s one for you, many years ago , I had a very close friend, whom I had a falling out with. You have to take into consideration for me to call someone a friend, means that we have been through stuff together, and they for lack of a better word , have been battle tested. They have my back and I have theirs. It’s not someone who flees when things get intense, that’s a suspect, possibly an acquaintance ☺️☺️. Like most stupid human beings we let it go on way to long and it caused a rift in our friendship and guess what happened? That’s right, they up and died on me, no way to make that one right. Such loss and misery of our last words together. My grandson just went through something very similar for tearing into a kid in his command and then the kid got killed on his bike. We can’t go back and call mulligan. We have to try and process it and learn from it. For me , it has become about never missing an opportunity to let those who are closes to you to know how you feel about them and how much you love them because you never know when it may be your last opportunity to do so.
- I don’t know if I’ve made my case or not about us all being liars, but we are. ☺️Sometimes we are just master manipulators, and just like we have a tendency to hurt the ones that we love the most…go figure, that makes absolutely no sense whatsoever, but it’s the gospel truth☺️☺️. So lies and manipulation, we save our best material for ourselves. That’s right!!, we lie to ourselves all the time, in fact we probably lie more to ourselves more than to anyone else, of course unless you are a Bonafide Psychopath ☺️☺️. If that sounds strange to you , then you are just going to absolutely love how we think that we can lie to God as well, yeah…that’s a really good one right there . I call that one the manipulation of disillusionment. ☺️☺️. I so like that we have great variety in the lies that we tend to tell ourselves. We like to be even handed, so sometimes we are the greatest like Mohammed Ali, and at other times we are the worse thing ever and should have never lived past our toddler years, ok, that one was a little dark, but You get the point ☺️☺️. Believe it or not I actually don’t find either of these extremes all that odd, and it’s actually the ones who always think that they are just fine that scares the hell out of me….talking about psychopaths ☺️☺️.
- Let’s just deal with us for a minute before we run of to the God area. I think that the majority of us have a tendency to sell ourselves short and perhaps it’s better or a safer spot than being on top waiting for someone to topple us an our over inflated egos. ☺️☺️On most days, the majority of us are just a bundle of insecurities ranging from our appearance to our abilities and the question of , if any one truly loves us for who we are.? Not who we betray ourselves to be , but the real broken , messed up me.☺️ Maybe the worst part is, the just not knowing. It’s like people who have a lot of money, would they still love me if I was broke and destitute, not a bum off of the street, but there are days when I’m kind of close☺️☺️. Maybe that’s the biggest or the king of the lies, because it’s a basic need to be excepted and cared for by somebody or someone. I think far to many of us have traded the someone for a dog or a cat. I want to say good luck with that or whatever works for you, but we know at our core that it’s not the optimum and that we have somehow, somewhere along the way settled.🥲🥲. I’m not here to beat anyone up or to make us feel guilty about doing the best that we can, because at the end of the day life is just hard and the older that you get, the harder it can become.
- If we can over come our looks, our weight, and all of the other things that we don’t like about our physical appearance, then it really gets dicey, because it becomes about the internal, the parts that are hidden away . Things about our personalities, temperament, and possibly our belief systems, the things that act as our fail safes. The problem is actually one of Self deception . We constantly deceive ourselves about who we are. We find it really easy to make snap decisions about other people. Sometimes we are correct in those assumptions, but probably more times than not, off base☺️☺️. We are really jaded and slanted in our estimations about ourselves and we spend an incredible amount of time reinforcing those beliefs? whether they are correct or not so much!!☺️. It wasn’t that long ago that I wrote a post about how people usually fall into one of two categories and they are the arts or the sciences, and yes I know some dabble in both. The point was that I had modeled my life after the sciences, while all of my hard wiring says arts. Basically I have spent a tremendous amount of time lying to myself ☺️☺️. Might not be the best example, I guess you would have to know me better, or perhaps even better, if you were to take a nice hard long look In the mirror.☺️ The Psychological over view is that we can’t function without knowing who we are. Some may choose to define themselves by what they do, such as being a mother or a student, or some other occupation.
- Based on who we tell ourselves that we are, we either give ourselves a passing grade or we get caught in the recycle bin of just not measuring up . We don’t actually have to have other people kick us around, because we do a great job of that ourselves. ☺️. Most of us have had some brokenness that still has some residual effect, even though we survived it and moved on. Failures in life have a way of making us feeling less than adequate, sometimes just down right dumb and maybe even a little pathetic, as we tell ourselves that we should have known better, with the echoes of ” never again “. Our culture or or society, or however you wish to refer to the cesspool that we live in, really tries to define us and to hang labels on us. On the surface it’s simple, you are either a success or you are not. Then it gets to be about sub categories, which cause us to look around and compare ourselves to others. Depending on who we choose to compare ourselves to will determine whether we get a thumbs up or a thumbs down. It can become a never ending tale of highs and lows depending on if we decide to let the world around us to determine our value and worth.
- Despite the world’s estimation of us, we are so much more than what we do for a job, or even good and bad in our behaviors . We are so much more than the stuff that we own or collect. We are so much more than what the mirror tells us about our physical appearance. We are so much more than our greatest accomplishment or even our worse failures in life. All of these things have variables to them and possibly lead us to believe things that aren’t true….so there for a lie. The thing we need to remember about lies, is that there are never just two of them, there are always more. We are not very attractive, so no one could ever love me or want me, so I must not have a place or purpose here. That’s how it goes, just one untruth connected to the next one and so on it goes, a downward spiral.
- We live in an era where everyone wants to redefine what truth is , and debate that your truth isn’t their truth, just like we can make it up as we go along.☺️☺️ See, that’s the thing about truth, it’s universal and applies to all. We all breath in oxygen, if someone else tells you that they don’t because they have another truth about that, then that’s just them lying to themselves. We don’t like the black and white examples of that one, so we muddy the waters with areas of gray, but regardless of how you shade it, truth is truth and it applies to all and when you step outside of that , you are only deceiving yourself and anyone else that you find so gullible ☺️☺️
- The truth is that God created mankind/ you in His image. The truth is that God loves you more than you can possibly imagine. The truth is that God speaks blessings over you and not curses. The truth is God sees you as a masterpiece, not junk, not ugly, and definitely not trash. The truth is that God see immense value in who you are, regardless of what you see and the world says about you. The truth is that , when you are scared or afraid , or confused and feeling all alone, God is right there with you in whatever it is that you are going through. The truth is that you are the apple of God’s eye and the object of His affection. The truth is that the only reason we even know how to love, is because ,God loved us first. The truth is that we live in a really broken world, and if it says or sees anything other than the things that God says about you, then it’s a lie and should be rejected. Ok, one more lie before we go, while we are busy lying to ourselves, and that is that I’m just to broken or dysfunctional for God to love me and want me. That my friend is a bold face lie, and its trying to keep you from the goodness of God. I’m just so grateful that the world doesn’t get the last word, but God does and He is the voice of truth. ❤️ The truth is that God is crazy about you and to prove that point, He sent His son to make a way for you to have a relationship with Him. Have you taken Him up on His offer?
- Till Next Time ✌️ Peace!
- Sandy The Southerner
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