- Not The Only One!
- Post # 83
- 08 Jun 23
- This is going to Hurt!
- Howdy,
- I sometimes will get online and be searching for some piece of information, or briefly pop in on social media and I will see those pop up ads. If you are someone who has managed to eliminate those pop up ads, then consider yourself truly blessed☺️☺️. I saw an ad for a T shirt company, with nifty little saying printed on the shirts. Some would find them offensive, they are most certainly in your face, and also are politically incorrect. The things printed on these T shirts often points out or points to things that should be obvious in life, but not always so much! I’m not going to mix words here , but come right out and say that, it points out things that were once upon a time considered to be common sense, which seems to not only be in short supply, but evaporating at a rate that will make it extinct in the very near future. I’m not going to say that it’s my favorite, but it most certainly jumped out at me, was the T shirt that had printed on it ” I can fix stupid! But it’s going to hurt”. Sometimes when we are engaged in not so smart behaviors, it does hurt to have corrective actions taken. It’s not usually a physical pain, but can be, often it is something so much more painful that we wish that it was physical, so that we could just heal from it and move on. The pain usually associated with stupid things, is to our pride, our egos, or mental physic , which just seems to linger around for ever. It’s those things that we don’t easily forget, even though we wish that we could ,but embarrassment, can often be the gift that just keeps on giving, well at least in our minds, or is that just me?☺️☺️. I will just come with it and tell You that our culture has gone sideways and a little bit off of the deep in. There is so much truth to the fact that if we don’t have any expectations, then we will never be disappointed ☺️☺️. When I was younger, I was a little bit of an adrenaline junkie, so I have done and participated in my fare share of stupid things, and yes sometimes it hurt, and also would leave a mark from time to time ☺️☺️. I don’t ever believe that I was guilty of shifting the culture. I think one of the funniest things is that we allow people to do and say stupid things, and it goes unchecked. No,! This isn’t like doing a fact check on a politicians speech, because for the most part we know or expect for that to be full of lies, half truths and just general deception.☺️☺️ I’m more so talking about silly stuff that people do, and they want the rest of us to except it as legitimate or valid, when nothing could be further from the truth. Who has ever heard of someone’s emotional support animal, needing a emotional support animal of its own, that’s right the animal who is doing the supporting also needs support… really?☺️☺️. I remember not that long ago when we didn’t want people to be placing labels on us. We pride ourselves on our individuality, and it seems all that we do now is self identify. I am this or I’m that, and don’t even get me started with all of the stupid pro noun crap. I’m just sorry and it sucks to be you , if you have made it this far in life and haven’t figured out that there are only two genders, and just because you want to alter your body, that I some how , have to bow down and recognize that, that is a you problem and I’m not sure why you believe the rest of us need to acknowledge that. I know that this is a me problem, because I have just never laid down at night, went to sleep and woke up in the morning and said, oh today I feel like a woman , so it must be true. ☺️☺️ There was a time when that kind of behavior would land you one of those nice old dinner jackets that tied up in the back, so that you wouldn’t hurt yourself or others, but now days you get to strut around like a free range chicken ☺️☺️. I guess we get what we will tolerate, and under the banners of inclusion and diversity, we have tolerated an awful lot. It’s not just here, but all throughout life. We have crummy government, but we vote crooked people into office, so we have the government that we deserve or tolerate, because we lack the fortitude to hold them accountable. I guess I’m going to show my geeky side today and be like star trek and boldly go where most are afraid to go now days. Sometimes I pick on Christians, but today, I just want to call out men for being so lack luster performers, and frankly not really worthy of having any balls at all. I just wish that men would embrace the awesome responsibility of being fathers. We, us guys have dropped the ball in so many ways, so many times, and honestly the excuses are not even worthy of the breath that you take to say them. Women have tried to pick up the slack and over perform, because we have often just been missing in action. Nothing in life operates in a vacuum, so if there is a void, then something will fill it. We have become our kids friends and buddies, not generally a good thing, those things can be and should be incorporated into parenting, but it can’t be the main leg of the operation . I have a little bit of a twisted sense of humor, so I can find humor in things that others may not necessarily be able to grasp. My last visit to Florida, I was at a play ground with my youngest two grandsons. This is a true story, so there is this little kid, probably about three years old, and his father is chasing down behind him, the kids looses his hat, and his father says, Hey buddy, is it OK if I pick this up for you?, oh no wait for it! Because that’s not the end of it, then he goes on and says to the little man, hey buddy is it okay if I put your hat in the stroller?. I’m being composed, but in my head, I’m rolling around on the ground just dying ☺️☺️. I’m thinking what the hell? The kid is three years old and Your talking and treating him like he is European royalty and I’m sure that he doesn’t give two flips what you do with that hat. I mention this to my daughter later, who is trained in early education stuff ,and she tells me this what they call ” gentle parenting “☺️☺️. I mean you can call it whatever you want , but this isn’t going to end well. See, when we are parents, we try to bring some kind of balance to the process and teach or train our kids, what is acceptable and generally customary for the culture and kids adapt to find their place in the world. And no! I’m not talking about crushing anyone’s creativity or uniqueness, but how to present that in an acceptable way that others can appreciate and wrap their minds around it , because others may not view your kid as European royalty. However, when we become our kids friends, then we loose part of our objectivity and our place to make corrections, because we are to busy supporting and backing them up with whatever crazy thing that pops into their minds. And then we wonder why our kid is a little weird, well aren’t we all just a little weird. I find it odd that when we go to apply for a job, that people ask for references and they want experience, but when it comes to parenting it just goes out the window and we discount all of the living we have done and want our kids to figure it out on their own. I thought that was the whole idea behind parenting, was to guide and instruct, so that your little weirdos didn’t become to weird for the rest of us weirdos.☺️☺️ . I don’t know how many of you guys remember old school Batman, where the Boy wonder would read a clue from the Joker or the Riddler, and he would say riddle me this or riddle me that. So , here’s my riddle me this? When did it become cool and acceptable to have sex in your parents home. I’m not talking about sneaking around as a teenager, but full fledged adults under your roof. We couldn’t, but now they can, because it is what we tolerate . It’s like we have sanctioned it, and we know that even as married adults it’s weird having sex when you just go home to visit your parents, but now it’s perfectly cool. We wonder why there are so many help wanted signs and why kids will quit a job at the drop of a hat, when they know that they always have a safe and soft place to land with their friends that gave them life. When did parenting become about taking the path of least resistance? It’s one of the toughest jobs and things that most people will ever do, yet it has become about capitulation and appeasement. I know that many of you will hate this analogy, but it doesn’t detract from the truthfulness of it. If you have a pet, let’s say a dog, and if you love that animal, you don’t let it run around any old way that it wants to, because you know that your neighbors don’t want it crapping in their yard,☺️☺️and if you let them chase cars, at some point they are probably going to end up underneath the car and the car usually wins those arguments. We say that we love our kids, and I have no doubt about that, but do we love them enough to correct them when we see them going in the wrong direction. You may not want to lock them in a fence or put a leash on them, but do we truly love our pets more than our kids, or is it because the dog doesn’t hold their love for hostage and threaten us with certain things, such as our past failures and short comings. That is completely on us , because we think that we have to be perfect as parents , and there is no such thing as a perfect parent outside of God, so we need to learn how to say I’m, sorry and I was wrong or made a mistake , and even that builds into the relationship with our kids and takes the pressure off of us having to be perfect ourselves . Often the problem goes back to when they were three years old on a playground in Florida and you were running behind them being a good helicopter parent, and Incase you missed the sarcasm there, there is no such thing as a good helicopter parent☺️☺️. We have in some respects made life to easy for our children and they have lost respect for us as parents, because we are their friends. It’s like going to a bowling alley and we put the bumpers up for them, so they never know what it’s like to have one of their balls go into the gutter, and without that resistance in life to pull themselves out of the gutter, they never become stronger or mature into all that they could and should be, and definitely not a better bowler.. As parents, when we see our kids going the wrong way or engaging in something potentially harmful, we have an obligation to say something and that will and can look different for everyone depending on what your relationship looks like, and remember it’s about the relationship and not a bunch of rules. I was raised with tough love, but that is not for everyone, but every relationship has tough seasons and rough patches. There is a fine line between taking away their motivation to succeed in life and encouraging them to be all that they can be. I usually think of myself as quality over quantity guy, depending on what it is ,sometimes when it comes to your kids you just want as much time with them as possible, especially after they become adults, because we are all just so busy and time goes by all so fast. When my son was younger, he would do something ten times in a half ass way, instead of doing it once correctly and just making sure that it was done correctly. When it comes to parenting, we have to do it correctly the first time, take the time , no, none of us are perfect and yes we all make mistakes in this area, but if we approach it with the ten times mentality, it’s probably not going to end well. There is something about being able to Abide in the things that we know are true and we shouldn’t abandon them just because someone wants to challenge a social norms. I know that since Covid, we have all be redefining what the new normal is , but there are hard truths in life and before we depart today, let’s just consider a couple. In our unique culture of wanting to be different, there are still only two genders and God said that He created them male and female. The part that follows is the kicker, He said that He made them in His image and I’m not real sure who gave us permission to alter that. That being said every person has value and we all reflect His image and some of His glory. I try to stay away from to much preaching and church stuff, but it is who I am at my core, so it would be like me denying myself. I want to challenge you guys with this section of scripture from the first chapter of the book Roman’s from around verse 21 to 29 and see if it is not appropriate for where we find ourselves today. I know that many of you can be dismissive about God’s word, but it doesn’t change the validity of it. It just goes on about how God just let us go wild so that we would become overtaken by the twistedness of our warped minds. My part in this?, just think of me as Paul Revere and I’m trying to sound the alarm. Wake up, we are heading for the falls and over the edge. While we think that we should be able to have our cake and eat it too, life rarely works that way . We can’t keep pulling at the moral fabric of the foundation without it coming crashing down and thrust me, ” This is going to Hurt ”
- Till Next Time ✌️Peace!
- Sandy The Southerner
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