- Not The Only One!
- Post # 133
- 16 May 24
- ” Separate But Equal ”
- Howdy,
- Hey gang, thanks for tuning in once more. I’m going to start off with a prayer request for any of you with a like mindset. I have this one that I keep working on and keep passing over. I ask for Your prayers in that my heart and mind will settle in and not be so conflicted about what needs to be said. Thank You in advance for your prayers😇😇
- Well a little bit of a history lead in before I get to the point as usual ☺️☺️. Some of you may be familiar with this as an old supreme court case over segregation in the public schools. They are the highest court in the land , but that doesn’t mean that they always get it right.☺️☺️ I think that history will show that they got it wrong, but it’s not a one time occurrence…sadly ☺️☺️. Ok, so we can’t move forward until we know where we have been. Ok, readers digest version, because I don’t think that they actually teach this stuff in schools any longer. We have two different decisions by the supreme court over fifty years apart. In 1896, the supreme court ruled that it was not unconstitutional for schools to be segregated as long as they were equal in quality, laughable and a joke. In 1954 , it was revisited in the case of Brown vs. The Board of education in Topeka Kansas, in which they reversed themselves and found that Separate But Equal was absolutely not constitutional. Point in case last year the highest court in the land did a very similar thing and reversed Roe vs Wade. They gave the whole land of America a black eye with that one, and again it took them fifty years to get it right. They did not out law abortion as many people may want you to believe. All they did was return a high jack right back to the states, where it should have been all along. I know that You may think that I’m here for this one, but not so much! ☺️☺️
- The idea of Separate But Equal really clicked in my head about men and women. Nope! , not a debate about gender or anything along the lines of battle of the sexes.☺️☺️ I just find it odd or funny how we pair up and square off. I do believe in creation, so I believe that God had a very specific purpose in how He put us together. I mean coupling is fascinating in itself outside of how God put us together. We are all a calibration of weakness and strengths. In an ideal setting, I would believe that the perfect setting would be for You to be with someone who off sets your weaknesses and that you would do the same for them. In that way you would compliment one another.
- It’s not a hundred percent thing, but You will normally see an extrovert paired with an introvert. There is usually a saver and one that likes to spend money. If there are children present, one is usually the ” fun parent ” and the other leaning a bit more towards responsibility or the disciplinarian. We have just about all heard about the battle over who is messy and who is the clean one, the traditional odd couple ☺️☺️. One of my all time favorites is who is the super emotional one and who is logical and pragmatic. I know that we want to rush to the woman being the emotional ones , but but I want to caution you on jumping to that conclusion ☺️☺️. Men can be extremely emotional depending on what you are dealing with, and I want to say season of life. Men seem to get more sensitive with age, and I don’t know if there is a correlation between men and a fine bottle of wine☺️☺️. I never got into the whole Ying and yang thing, but I believe most of these things point towards some kind of harmony and balance within the relationship.
- We just came off of mother’s day and are quickly rounding the corner towards father’s day. Talk about two things that are a world apart and have a vastly difference of perspectives. I think that mother’s day is only bested by Christmas, when it comes to the greeting card business and father’s day falls somewhere around fifty- third behind what I think is officially happy groundhogs day☺️☺️. I want to say that us fellas just have to own this one here. There are a ton of men out there who do a great job and are incredible loving dads. I want to say that a few bad apples make it bad for the rest. The problem is that there are so many more than just a “few”. In fact the family courts are just overwhelmed with dead beat dad cases. This is unfortunately one of these cases where the negativity overshadows the good, and we as a society just love to focus on the negative or the not good things. We don’t celebrate the good cops, but we show over and over again the one’s that get it completely wrong 😪. , leading us to believe that the majority of them are bad, and that’s just not the case. The Same may be said of dads.
- The Separate But Equal thing goes to us being hard wired a certain way . I know that as a culture we have been pushing for something close to a gender neutral society and all I can say about that is ,good luck with that ☺️☺️. We have certain things inherently built in regardless of how hard we try to deny it or feminize men and masculate women. It just goes to design. Men are meant to be protectors. It’s a roll that we shun for various reasons. We want to believe that women can do all of the things that men do , but it’s just not true and the same is true of men, we can’t bring children into the world without the other half doing their part. Regardless of how hard we try or want it to be, we can’t get around needing an egg and some sperm and that’s by God’s specific design.
- I watched a movie the other day ago and it impressed me on how things use to work, or how I remember that they were supposed to be opposed to what we have now. The movie was set about thirty-five years ago and a lot has changed in less than in forty years. There was a man attempting to lead a rather large family, seven kids…ouch for that uterus☺️☺️, I digress, but everyone had a roll and a place. The beautiful part of it was that they endured all things together, both the great and the failures and disappointments as well. They were in it together and when things got tough they got closer. It reminds me a little bit of our relationship with our heavenly Father, when things are tough, we are supposed to run to Him and not away and try and figure it out on our own. Kind of defeats the whole purpose of having a parent or a heavenly Father. Again the roll of the mother and father were distinct rolls that complimented one another and it brought a system of checks and balances with it. Men are usually stronger than women physically, but it’s off set by women’s emotional strength, which many men never ever dare to dance with☺️☺️. There is something God inspired and God honoring, when we conform to what God had intended for us. I know that many of you think that conformity is a dirty , dirty word, but look where we have ended up left to our own redefining of so many things that we think that we can improve on, but the ticker tape is just not proving that out for us.
- Let’s just turn the page. We for the most part judge everything through the filter of our own life experiences and things that we have observed. Often we have a copy cat mentality with a few minor adjustments that for the most part are insignificant. The size of a house, the style of car, right down to education achievements and number of kids. We aren’t as radical as we would like others to believe that we are. ☺️We live in a global economy, but often act and behave as if we have the answers for the ailments of the world, when we actually don’t. Other cultures throughout the middle east and far east far out surpass America in the things that really count. Sure!, we have one of the world’s largest economies, which pisses away more money and natural resources in a single month than some places do in a six month or year span. We are a world leader in most of the negative indicators such as crime, divorce, suicide, single parent homes, people dealing with depression and anxiety and of course loneliness. What do we have that is so great that we should want to export it around the world and please don’t say democracy. Our government is so dysfunctional that it might as well be run by primates. If they didn’t do a better job, it would probably be just as equivalent to what we have now ☺️☺️. My son who recently moved half way across the country always reminds me to leave things on a positive note, so let’s try and do that.☺️☺️
- Globally, outside of the West, we don’t see so much emphasis put on equality when it comes to the sexes. There are places still today that women and children don’t have basic human rights and are often an after thought. Extremely sad, but true and I’m not advocating for that way of life, because both women and children have tremendous value and worth are often the very people that Jesus sort out and elevated in a culture where they were no more than often property and something to be bargain with. If we look at Jesus inner circle, outside of the twelve, there were a lot of interaction with women, which greatly went against social norms of the day. I believe that it was an ad for a cigarette called Virginian Slims , and it was targeted at women and the ad was” You have come along way Baby”. I believe that it was an extremely successful ad campaign, because it drew a lot of women into the area of lung cancer. Wait! , was that the goal? I don’t believe so, but it allowed us to burn bras and somehow declare that we have arrived….have they? Or was it a great deception that kept them from being valued for who they were designed to be. This isn’t about the cry of feminism, which for the most part, because it was DOA. Women gave up way to much for what they actually got in return, but we aren’t here today for that either ☺️☺️.
- The point here is that in the eyes of God, men and women are equal and yet separate, but women are not seen or viewed as less than. I believe that God holds men more accountable, because of design as to be protectors and providers, and I also believe that there is a heavy price to pay for shucking that responsibility. God has deliberately planted unique things within men and women that are separate, but designed to work together in a collaboration of unity and harmony. It’s another one those things that we get sideways when we attempt to use them in a way that they weren’t designed to. I’m not saying that men can’t be good at nurturing and raising small children, but I’m saying that they were never designed to take the place of a mom and her softness . The same is true of women, I’m not saying that a woman can’t teach a kid how to throw a football, it’s just that they aren’t dads, regardless of how badly they may want to be. Please don’t write me because you are a single parent for whatever reason and had to step up, that’s just part of life, be it divorce, death or some other unforeseen circumstance.
- Men and women are fundamentally different, there! . Yep I said it. We are different in how our bodies develop and mature. We are different in how our neurological pathways work, which effects how we think about things. How we attempt to problem solve. It even affects the way we prioritize life. Sure, you can run across an odd ball guy talking about his biological clock ticking, but trust me, it’s just not the same thing 🤣☺️☺️. I can only speak from a heterosexual perspective but, I think that most men are glad that they aren’t women and having to deal with some of the things that women deal with, and once you get past penis envy ☺️☺️, I’m pretty sure that most women are happy that they aren’t men. I don’t believe that God made mistakes as people who are changing their gender want us to believe….regardless! The thing is , the battle of the sexes or actually the inequality of one sex over the other is just another thing to divide us, just like race, social economics, and political parties. It’s something to keep us at one another’s throats instead of living our best life, or as God would say ,” the abundant life “. We need to embrace our God given calling and design , instead of trying to figure out what else we can do with it. Solomon said it so eloquently over three thousand years ago, ” Nothing New Under the Sun”, only if we grasp that truth and if You are hung up on technology and the latest crave, then you have missed the point and need to see if you can adjust your focus.
- Until Next Time, ✌️ Peace!
- Sandy The Southerner
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