“It Takes All Kinds “

  • Not The Only One!  
  •            POST # 77
  • 27  Apr 23    
  •        ” It Takes All Kinds”
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  • If prostitution is  the oldest  profession,  then  the slave  trade and  racism runs a pretty  close second. People  being brought and sold as commodities,  is as old as the day is long , and unfortunately,  still very much a thing.  There have always been slaves and slavery  in some shape form or fashion , and  I  don’t  see it going  away  anytime  soon.  If you  are  one of the Biblical  types,  then  slavery  started in the garden and  its master was sin, so always  been around.  I know  that  is a pretty  grewsome   opening  statement,  but now that I  have  your full  attention,  let’s just  look at a few things and  no!, not all about  slavery and  absolutely  nothing to do with prostitution ☺️ I want to welcome  you  guys into  a little  introspection.  I don’t  go out of my way to be controversial,  much the opposite.  I  don’t  really  bite my tongue and  I  have  constantly  encouraged  certain  people  to  stop reading if they  find the content  offensive or  not to their  lacking.  I have said before,  that  God has prevented me  before  from publishing  certain  content,  because it was  probably  more  harmful  than  anything  else  , and you could  completely  forget  about  being  helpful and  up lifting.☺️   I  don’t  use hot button phrases and I  try to not to use certain words that could be  taken as inflammatory,  and  at the same time I  will  not sit  silent on  certain  topics and  issues that I  believe are more aimed  at  tearing  down  our once great Nation.  I  can not and will  not  be  silent less, I  become  part of the problem.  All that being said,  I  want  to warn  some of you  that you  are  probably not going to  be happy  with me  on this one. I’ve been  asked  before   could    I  lie to a dying  person   so that they  could  have  a more peaceful  death. I  want  to  say that  would  be  a  hard NO, and I know  on some level  that  sounds  extremely  harsh. I’m also  the guy who  doesn’t  feel  sorry for a sports team  who looses a close one in overtime.  My belief is  that if  you handle  your  business  during  regulation time , there would be  no need  for  overtime  or  the heart ache that  may accompany that. ☺️☺️I  say a hard NO, based on  something  that  I  had shared  some time back about  my bio father’s  mother,  so my paternal  grandmother.  I  didn’t  honor  her request for  closure at the end of  her life. I’m not even  going to  say that I’m standing  on  principle,  I  just  feel as  if it’s just  one more  non truth thing in life. Well  , you may be wondering where all this going and  now I  maybe  wondering  that myself. ☺️☺️I  guess earlier  last evening I  found myself  being  a  total and complete hypocrite.  I  violated the  truth  that I  just  said that I  couldn’t  do. No !, no  one is dying,  but the principle  is  very  much the same. This is about  me being  a coward and  feeling  very conflicted . I will double back to the conflicted part in a bit. I  have someone  who  I consider  a friend,  we haven’t  walk through  fire together or even  so much the thick and  thin, but a friend, nonetheless.   This is  a  very  beautiful  woman who,  where if I  was  wired differently would be  a  super  catch for me, but I  am who I  am, and we are not a match. . She is also  an inspiring  writer and  I  have  had the privilege to  read  over some of  her material in the past, and  more so more than  anything  else, I respect  her. Today  she sent  me  a  piece of  her work to  read and asked me my thoughts  on  it. I  didn’t lie to her because  it  was  very  well written  out and  it was most definitely  thought  provoking, and organized  well.  I  told her that it was a literary masterpiece and  on some levels that  is absolutely  true.  I  remembered   that it was something that I  had read before,  about  a  year ago, so I  ask  her had she had made revisions to  it  and  then  she sent me a copy of the original,  which  is  apparently what she had shared before. It was  well polished but  the central theme and thought  process  behind it was the same.  I  know that I  have  written  things  and set them  aside  for  a  while and  sometimes  gone back to  them and other  times  not so much!. Well  it’s been  at least a  year since  she first  shared this piece of  work  with me and  I’m trying to  read it objectively  and  critique it  without giving  much consideration to the  content.  In my head it  was  coming across like  one of  the movies  from  the  French  Can film festival   that the elites  says is some kind of  generational work  of art that will  be  appreciated for decades to  come.  In the mean time , most of us  just  don’t  get  it. We  don’t  get the story line, and if we do, we  find it boring or something  completely  unrelatable.  They  say that a picture is  worth  a thousand words and  sometimes in writing  it comes down to  the content,  and in this case I  found  the content a little  on the offensive side and  I  truly  don’t  get offended  easily.  The content was what I  would consider  racially charged. It contained information from  multiple time periods and she   attempted to  link them  together  as one continuous story. It further went  on  to drop some pretty  heavy names.  They were  all referred to by just their first names as if you didn’t recognize the struggle or were unaware,  you would not have a frame of reference for Harriet, Angela, Sojourner,  Turner, Malcom  ,and Martin.  If you didn’t know,   Harriet Tugman, Nat Turner, Malcom X, and Dr. King. I’m not  even  sure  that  some of these  names  should  even  be  mentioned in  the  same  sentence together  .  I  say that  because of  these individuals call to arms, were so very  different.  I  remember  Dr King  as a visionary and  Malcolm  X, was more so a revolutionist,  and while  there  is the possibility of  one person  being  both, that was not true  for these two  men,  especially  with  Dr. Kings , none violence stance. I  talked about  how unrelated things  sometimes  congregate in  my  head  together,  so maybe  for this author   that  maybe the case as well.  I’m going to  talk around  this piece  of  work/ art, because I  don’t  want  to  further  popularize it.  Now,  I  have  no problem with  anyone making a  buck, and that is what  has happened  here, she has  merchandising that  goes along with her work  in the  form of  T shirts and  hats,, if it was something that I  agreed with, I would  say kudos and great job! However, I  must  say  that  it slaps me in the face much  like Trump’s MAGA hats. I want to  say if this country is  your  home, then  you  are aware of  our roots, our successes,  but  we usually more so focus on our short comings and  failures.  I  believe that  slavery in  the U.S was a scourge on the tapestry of  something that  was  so brilliant,  that it has never  been  duplicated and I’m referring to  the Democratic Republic that the Founders left us with.  Slavery was a  huge black  mark , not the only one,  but one that can  never  be  overlooked. If  by a show of hand ,,I asked how many  of  you  were familiar with  the  riots that  took place  in Wilmington back in 1898, I think not many.   It was another  dark day in our history  where evil reign and over sixty African Americans  lost their  lives at the hands of white supremacist and  Klansmen .Most probably  more so   may  remember  Rodney  King,  back in the 90s. I  just  feel  like  taking  a  very  unfortunate  incident like,  the church  shooting  in Charleston almost  ten years ago and attempting to  connect it with  the  riots from the late 1800s and  pointing back  to  slavery  in  the  south and saying  that  it’s all connected is just  a  travesty.  I  think that  we can frame  things  in any context that we  wish, however to me it’s an oblique asserted effort  to  keep race relations a hot button and  a topic  that  we continue  to  poor gasoline on, instead of pouring water on it , to put it out. I do remember  that  during  the  Civil Right  movement,  that there were white  people who  died as well  in an  attempt to  make  sure that we all got those inalienable rights  that  the constitution  speaks of. And during those darkest days, weren’t  the majority of  the  abolitionist who were  trying  to  free slaves  of a lighter complexion? . In my mind the argument of taking the  abolitionist from  the  1800s and the pro white Civil Right  workers from the  1960s and lumping all of them  together and trying  to  say that all white people are  some how “woke” or racially  color blind,  would  be ludicrous,  because we wouldn’t  have  systemic racism in this country,  but we do. So I don’t  think that we can  make  the argument in the opposite direction either.  There are two things that  perplex me a little bit about  all of the racial discussions.  First up, I  know that  ancestry. Com has made it  more knowledgeable,  but  I  think that  less than  five percent of  African Americans can  name anyone  in their  family line who was actually a slave.  On the other side,  I’m not  sure how people who don’t  even  know if their  family  owned slaves  or  not are supposed to  be  some how accountable for  something that  happened over a hundred  plus years before  they  were  even  a twinkle in their daddy’s  eye, not even God does that. I  remember  back in  the  eighties , when Jessie Jackson  ran for President of the United States and I  believe  his campaign slogan  was  “Keep Hope Alive “, but some forty years later  seems the only  thing  we are trying  to  keep  alive  is  the  hatred. I guess since I’m in the deep  end of the pool, I  might as well take a couple  of  laps, so this  is where ,I  probably  get  some of you really  hot under  the  collar and  you  may want  to  join me in the pool,  but remember,  we can’t  take turns holding  one another  under the water☺️☺️. Hatred vs. Heritage ,I’m not sure about  inanimate objects  projecting racism.  So if seeing a confederate  flag makes  me feel racism,  then  me staring at a hundred  dollar  bill  should make  me feel  rich? , is that really  how  that works?. I think that it is  complete lunacy with  all  of  the statues, flags, coming  down,  the renaming  of  everything  from  schools, naval war ships  to military  bases. All  through scripture  it talks about markers to help  us to remember.  We   don’t  have  to  celebrate the broken and dark places  in  our  past,  but we sure as hell, need  to  remember where we have  come from and  thank God that  we  aren’t  there anymore, and that is worth celebrating. I’m completely  aware  on a person  level,  as how we can’t  move  forward, if  we are constantly hold on to the  past. I  still  remember the  first time that I came eyeball to eyeball  with  racism and  it probably wasn’t  what I  was  expecting it to be and  it completely  caught  me  off guard. In my early  twenties as a restaurant manager, I  had  an encounter with  a  little  girl,  maybe six or seven  years  old,  and  when I  couldn’t  grant her request,  she dropped  the “N” word on me. I was completely  floored, and  completely  sadden, because at that young age, someone has taught  her  to  use that word. See ,the framework  is  much the same ,someone  had taught her hatred, based on skin color and  I  believe that is  what this article does as well,  it keeps  hatred alive and  trains the next generation that they have  some how been  disenfranchised.  I  keep  hearing  stories about  how hard it is to be a black man in America,  just as it is our cross to bear. This  country is just  full of opportunities,  I didn’t  say it  was  easy,  but  for  people who wish  to  apply themselves,  there are great  opportunities,  and probably  more so than  anywhere  else on the planet, again I didn’t  say easy. People flock here from the  four corners of the world  just to get a  shot at a better  way of  life  . I’m not a pie in the sky kind of guy, but if you choose to  dwell on  the  negative,  then  it will  become a  self fulfilling  prophecy that  it is to hard, and that the world  has some how singled you out and is against you.  Oh, yes I’m familiar  with  social  economics and  the  weight it brings  to  bear, but we need to work  hard to  make the system better and  in the meantime,  find a way to make  it  work  for  yourself. I  want to  say that the key  is  education,  but not just  academically.  We should  never  put a cap on someone’s dreams,  but everyone  is  not going to  grow  up  and  be a world  class athlete or entertainer. We need to  get our kids to  focus  on  realistic goals and  that starts with  Math and Science, and  Technology.  I’m not trying to  beat anyone up here, but if   we teach  something other than hatred disguised under the  banner of  revisionist  history,  because the forty acres and a mule thing is just  not going to  happen. I  just think that  we  are better  and also know  better  than  to just  keeping all  the  racial stuff in overdrive.  There are people  who garner great fame and political  power by keeping  us at one another’s  throats , telling us  the whoa is me story,  over and over  again  from  different  angels. If you are unfamiliar with the  name  Marcus Garvey,  look him up, he started  a  back to Africa  movement,  but didn’t  see many takers, nor should there have  been.  This is our home and  we should  be  proud  of  our accomplishments and  our heritage.  There is  something so powerful to be able  to  say that my forefathers were slaves,  but  look at what  we have  overcome.  That is and can  be  empowering,  opposed to  believing  that someone  has their  metaphorical foot on your neck and  you can’t  get up. If you  in anyway  feel  put upon , disenfranchised or at some other  disadvantage,  the best solution to overcome  that is to go and be successful. When  we seek  to  keep  the  race thing at the forefront,  I just think that  we  are going the wrong way or direction.  Some of you may have  recently heard about  Walmart,  Target and  other  retailers closing  stores in certain  areas, that may have  seem to hurt certain  demographics,  but  in these areas the municipalities have decided  that  they  aren’t  going to prosecute shop lifters who steal  under a thousand dollars, so  what course of Action would  you  take if in these retailers  shoes? .  That  is  just  an example of  us going in  the wrong direction  or way, and we need  to  remember  that  every  action  comes with a reaction. Again!, a little long and I’m sorry,  so let’s see if we can  wrap this up. I  had mentioned about  me feeling a little  conflicted  and let me tell you  why. I  think  for me to put my friend  on blast, or anyone  else  for that matter of fact is not helpful,  unless  I’m in the business of burning  bridges, which I am not! I  want to keep  communications  open  and  hopefully at some point  we may have a meeting of the minds. Dialog is  important.  In this meeting,  I  may get to see their  point of  view  better  or vise versa, but at least we aren’t  shutting down and digging  deeper  trenches or higher and thicker walls. So, I guess what I am saying is that I want  to preserve the friendship and  not loose it over ideology.  I’m going to  end this by resurrecting  Dr. King’s dream of  people,  all people  regardless  of  where they  fall  on the rainbow kaleidoscope of pigmentation., that they would  be  judged by the content of their character and  not  by the color of their  skin.
  • Till Next Time ✌️  Peace!
  • Sandy The Southerner
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