- Not The Only One!
- ” Accommodations “
- 22 Jun 23
- Post# 85
- Howdy!
- Hey!, I’m glad that You guys are here, and as my pastor likes to say, ” you are here and it’s not by coincidence “☺️☺️. Now!, when I think of Accommodations, my mind may run to a five star resort with all of the amenities, and I’m not just talking a hot tub , but a hot tub in the room, on the balcony, overlooking some turquoise blue water on a sandy beach. I mean if we are going to go, we might as well go all out☺️☺️. This post was given to me by another friend and someone whom I respect, just because of their take on life. Their views on life and dating took me a little by surprise. It shouldn’t have caught me by surprise, but it’s just so different from where and what much of the world is beginning to make as a standard, so it was refreshing. It could be me, I have said on occasion that I’m not easily impressed, but some how it made an impression on me. I just feel like we are so far away from anything traditional, and when we threw that out, it appears that decency and common curiosity went with it. Rude is very much in fashion and everything about self. We are of adult age, but many of us possess the mentality of a toddler and everything is about , I want or I need. I think that most of us are potty trained, yet our social skills would indicate that our mother’s still tuck us in at night with a bedtime story ☺️☺️. I believe that most things in life has an up and a down, so plusses and minuses, and this is so very true of social media. On the one hand it allows grandparents from across the globe to keep up with grandchildren and family, but it has so incredibly encouraged us to be Obnoxious, as we are allowed to incognito and anonymously say things that very few would have the nerve or balls to say face to face. I mean like who ever came up with this whole “Ghosting” thing should be taken to the woodshed and just left there until they were freed by the termites ☺️☺️. This friend of mine is not a new friend, but someone I met sometime ago and we just lost touch, I think do to timing. The thing that impressed me was the way that she went out of her way to make time and room for people and choosing to Accommodate them while getting to know them, when and wherever she could. This sounds simple and on some level it is, but now days it just goes against the grain. What I have observed for the most part is people wanting everything to fit nice and neatly in their world and for it to be seamless and effortless, and all I can say about that , is good luck with that ☺️☺️ . This use to be a Christian Nation, but no more.! We took that to the trash dump and set it on fire. There also use to be something known as southern hospitality, but we forgot to give it an endangered protective status like we do with all of the animals, so it’s becoming extinct as well. I must tell you that I find a certain irony here, with the hospitality thing because we continue to build bigger and bigger homes , with bathrooms up the yzoo. It makes me really wonder how in days gone past, how families of six or more ever survived with just one bathroom ☺️☺️. There is just something special about making room for someone in your life and meeting them kind of half way , instead of expecting them to cater to all of your baggage, criteria , and maybe making a round circle fit into a square peg. I get that for the most part most of us have some kind of wish list, or at least some non-negotiables,, such as smoking, or no heavy drinkers,, I have also encountered the just don’t bother me if you have any kind of take on religion, oh yeah, and the famous no” Trumpsters”!!. No matter what those no nos are, most are pretty firm on them. I often wonder how many times we find exactly or pretty close to what we are looking for, but there is just that one thing. Again I’m not encouraging anyone to settle, but perhaps open ourselves up to the potential of the possibilities. I keep hearing people saying that they don’t want to end up, old and alone, but are completely closed off when it comes to making any concessions, or anything close to making Accommodations for someone in their lives. I mean totally cut off towards where they could settle down together, diets and exercise, or finding some common ground on how to deal with adult children. I don’t believe that this should be hard, and of course, if it is to difficult, then there is the distinct fact that it is not meant to be. Sometimes it may require us to budge, just a little off of the Eutopia idea of what a potential partner may look like. I can tell you that the more things that You have in common ,the higher the success rate could be, and still sometimes that is just not enough. There is also the issue of scammers , grifters, con artists, and just generally not good people out there. There are people who wish nothing more than to separate us from our hard earned savings, nest eggs and retirement accounts. Please exercise caution and do your do diligence, when beginning any relationship, not just personally, but also in business as well. It would do you a world of service to know who you are getting into bed with, figuratively or other wise☺️☺️. Still there is just something about being able to legitimately make room for someone in your life. Again, this could be something as simple as trying a different cuisine, but many remain closed off to experiencing other cultures outside of the travel Channel ☺️☺️. Sometimes we need to take a personal inventory of what we are really about and what we are bringing to the table. When we say that we are open and ready for love, is that an actual fact, or are we only fooling ourselves with our list of non-negotiables, which often is off putting and acts as a high tower walled off to protect our hearts, which is often impenetrable to anyone who may be a would be suitor. I mean like when I say Accommodating, I think that the more time we spend with someone, the more we love them, and the more we see who they are beyond the exterior. As you get to know them, it’s like a peek behind the curtain and you get to see the beauty of their souls. If this is true, than the opposite must be true as well, you can’t get to know someone intimately, without spending time with them which leads back around to being Accommodating, by making time for them. This friend of mine, believes that she found the man of her dreams, by being open and Accommodating and can see how she may have missed him if she wasn’t willing to take a risk, and choosing to focus on the positives, over looking all of the flaws in an individual. She knows that she isn’t perfect and that there are no perfect people and that everyone at this stage of the game has stuff. It may not be your particular dysfunction, but everyone has baggage. Sometimes we just need to love people for who they are and not for who we wished that they would be. If a person comes into your life and ask You for a kidney, that may be just a little to much, but if someone is just asking for some of your time and you treat it like they are asking you for a kidney, then you may be just a little to much ☺️☺️. My friend has learned the art of being peaceful and purposeful, without a lot of fan fare. Life can go by so quickly and again as she has pointed out to me, there is a difference between living life and just existing and going through the motions. We are created for much more than what we usually experience in life. Now, ,!, if you think that is about one of those luxury suites that I was talking about in the beginning, then you could be wrong or partially correct. It has to be about more that, and it has to be or should be about the personal relationships that you form in your life and being able to serve others. If you are in some social setting, be it work or play , and you have a friend or family member and you know almost everything there is to know about them, but you don’t know how they are doing on an emotional and spiritual level, then you shouldn’t count them as a friend. They are actually more so an acquaintance ,or just a by stander, whom You know by their name. Then again there is the possibility that we just have different definitions for the word friend. In my world a friend is someone who shows up, and not just when it’s convenient for them to do so. Someone to laugh with, but right by your side in the tough times as well. Someone who tells you the things that You don’t want to hear, but you need to hear and they say it anyway. A friend is someone who weather’s the storms of life with you and if they don’t or can’t, then they qualify as a fair weather friend and probably should be pushed over to the acquaintance category. When you have someone in a dating relationship who is willing to relocate job and life for you and love, that is pretty Accommodating, and you might think of them as much more than just a friend as in all in, chips pushed to the center of the table, you may want to consider the option of taking them up on that. While my friend has made huge concessions and made room in her life for her guy, that is not even close to the most Incredible story that I have ever heard about Accommodations. This next one takes the cake and makes everything in comparison look like a cheap replica. There is this King , and He went all out for His subjects. This King modeled for His subject the perfect life. He gave them the greatest teachings ever known to mankind. Everything that He did was rooted in love and compassion. He told them that there was no greater love than to lay down one’s life for a friend, and He modeled that as well. He made the greatest Accommodations of all times. He told His subjects, His friends and His brothers and sisters that He was going to prepare a place for them, so that they could be with Him full time. He is not a slum land Lord,, so we are not talking about some shack out on the back forty, but its a mansion and He tells them that it has many rooms, room enough for all. I think that we are often so tied to this world, that we rarely think about eternity and thinking about it in terms of going home. I mean if you already live in a mansion and the most fanciest of places, it’s the ghetto, it’s the “Hood”, it’s a trash dump in comparison to what we have in store for us ,who know God on a personal level. He hasn’t cut corners with cheap drywall, but He has gone all out to the point where He tells us that the streets are paved with gold, can you imagine? We spend way to much of our time trying to achieve a comfortable lifestyle, while we are only here for what seems like a blink in time and on the eternity continuum, that truly is what it is. If the streets paved with gold aren’t enough of an enticement for you, how about the promise of no pain, no tears, no suffering, and one of my personal favorites, no alarm clocks ☺️☺️. Jesus did the ultimate paying it forward. He paid an absolutely high price and died a horrible death to purchase forgiveness for us, so that we can have and be in fellowship with God. He made it possible for us to have a reservation at the most unique place , and one that nothing can compare . I’m not in a rush to meet my maker, because the beauty of that is I get to do that every day , by spending time with Him. He takes our time together to encourage me and to reshape and renew my thought process, each and every day. Remember that all of the hard work has been done by God, and all we have to do is believe and receive His incredible gift. I look forward to seeing old love ones again. If you are counting on your own good works to get you there, then I won’t see you there, so enjoy the time you have here on the short side of eternity, or maybe not so much!
- Till Next Time, ✌️, Peace!
- Sandy The Southerner
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