- Not The Only One !
- Post #154
- 26 Sept. 24
- ” A Bone To Pick”
- Howdy!,
- Welcome once again , and thanks for checking in. I think that when we say that we have a bone to pick with someone, that it’s an objection about someone’s else’s position that they have taken 🤔. It could be something that they said or did . It could be something innocuous or something more on the serious side of things. I don’t know that it goes as far as an intentional obstruction of our will or if it’s just a wanting to understand how they could say a certain thing, feel a certain way , or take a certain position. And again I’m not even sure if it comes from a place of understanding as much as maybe, how dare you! ☺️☺️. There is the whole thing about loose lips , sinking ships, so maybe it was an, accidental betrayal of a confidence. We sometimes let the wrong thing slip out of our mouths in the wrong company. ☺️☺️. It’s not so much mixed company as it’s the improper setting for what we just dropped the ball with. ☺️☺️
- I’m not going to disregard the possibility that we say things to be intentionally mean sometimes . It’s that whole passive aggressive thing, where we don’t just want to stick the dagger in, but to slowly turn it for maximum effect.☺️ If you have ever been in a close interpersonal relationship, such as a marriage, then in the heat of battle you are probably very aware when the line is crossed and the gloves are off☺️☺️. When we are close with people, we usually learn of their flaws, vulnerabilities and that all to sensitive Achilles, and we just can’t stop ourselves from playing the nuclear option.☺️ Most , at one time or the other has experienced this, but it’s absolutely toxic, and while you may win the battle, the war may not, probably not turn out in your favor. ☺️ I think all couples fight and have disagreements, but when things get heated, we don’t always think along the lines of this person that I’m attempting to crush is someone who I have confessed deep love and affection for, and perhaps not that long ago, within recent moments ☺️☺️. It’s as if we have blinders on or some kind of serious disconnect. This is also the case when we try to hide certain aspects of our lives from God. I mean it borders on naiveness to some level of gullibility , but most definitely a disconnect ☺️☺️
- When push comes to shove, we mostly know who we can trust with what. I know in my own family that there are certain people if they know certain things, it just leaks out of them like the Titanic taking on water ☺️☺️. The whole world knows what they know. They wouldn’t make a good spy or solider because they would just divulge everything and anything that had been entrusted to them ☺️☺️.
- What do you do with people who can’t pick up on social cues? There is something to be said for knowing your audience or being able to read the room. Some people do this very well, and others are in the class of people who leave the restroom , with toilet paper on their shoes, under foot hopefully ☺️☺️ . The clueless isn’t always a knock on intelligence. Oh! No, contraire , they are often the smartest ones in the room. There above average intelligence has often left them unacceptable to certain social settings that would have afforded them the coolness to understand not to share certain things at certain times in certain situations. Smart to very smart , but lacking social intelligence ☺️☺️.
- There is usually this place where we turn a corner, and for me, that place often leaves me feeling conflicted. As in do I have the right to feel that way or take the position that I’m currently in , with the posture leaning towards confidence ☺️☺️. This may seem a little bit out in left field or a really flimsy branch on a tree. However I’m going to go with baby names for 200. What!? Yeah baby names. You know how baby names fall in and out of favor. If you prefer think about how they recycle the names of hurricanes. So…if I was to guess the two most popular baby names are right now, they would be ” Narcissist and Gaslighting”, and a close third would probably be ” racist”. Can you imagine naming your child any of these three words? Probably not , but it gets really hard to have a quality conversation with anyone over a period of time and one of these three not come circulating in at some point. Yeah!!, it’s possible that it’s just my imagination, or even worse something that I’m sensitive towards……because I’m guilty of….doubtful ☺️☺️.
- Perhaps my bone to pick should be people attempting to hang labels on us , that aren’t true, but it makes life easier for them to be able to pigeon hold us and put us into a category to keep from dealing with us. ☺️You know , it’s actually so much more expedient to be able to label them and file them away instead of actually taking the time to get to know them and see what makes them tick☺️☺️. Well if that is true, then Perhaps the whole gaslighting thing isn’t completely off the table ☺️☺️. A classic example of this for me is a person who is really good at window dressing. They will tell you that they are trying something new, but it’s actually not new at all, but another feeble attempt of going through the motions of something that they are drawn to, but to afraid to actually put down their guard and experience it with their whole heart. So for all practical purposes they are just going through the motions. They are paralyzed by fear, but always has this strong showing tough exterior shell. The fear keeps them from love and from the Gospel, which are actually one in the same. ☺️
- They will try and convince you that they took every step possible to get there. Maybe church attendance , while all along waiting to find something to be offended about. Perhaps did some devotional plan or even attempted to pray, when they aren’t even sure that God is real or even exist. ☺️ They have so many past hurts from people who say that they represent God, and to them they are one in the same. They can’t distinguish between a holy and righteous God and sinful people. The last one to me should be a no brainer , but psychology tells us that we lean in hard on the things that we want to believe are true. It helps us to navigate life and helps shape our world view. Should I have a bone to pick with someone who is insincere and lacks genuineness? Again , I’m flooded with conflict and the contradiction of becoming the very things that I’m opposed to. ☺️☺️. My one word answer for them is just sadness.
- In many instances this is just a microcosm of something much bigger and that’s our ability to hang our follies on the door step of heaven. The biggest lopsided deal in history has got to be calvary. It’s where we got to exchange our filthiness for God’s righteousness. A close second, well not really close at all but in a similar vein is our insistence on doing things our own way, that all so important ” free will “. We make so many bone head decisions and then get upset with God when He doesn’t rescue us from the Casio of our own making. ☺️☺️ . We will doubt God’s goodness and compassion, based on our need for a convenient scape goat. Yeah !, this is a classic want my cake and eat it too😊. It’s further a template of how the world is living right now. We want the independence and freedom to make the call, but we want nothing that looks like personal responsibility, when things get sideways ☺️☺️. The narrative quickly changes to how could God let this happen? Where was God when this was going on? There is my personal favorite of ” just God fix it”☺️☺️. Now we want to invite God into our personal crisis of a sick child, crumbling marriage, or some major financial set back. All before this , it was hands off, and ” I got this”☺️.
- Well I mentioned earlier about the gloves coming off, so let’s just take them all the way off, shall we? A Bone to pick is truly at its heart of hearts just a simple complaint. Perhaps a bone to pick should be God’s position with our constant complaining and whining over things that are to often a major blessing in our lives. You name it and we complain about it ☺️☺️. Do we ever just get tired of complaining about the weather. It’s too this or too that. There use to be a weather person who use to say, it’s the only weather you have, so enjoy it and make the most of it, and that’s the truth. Everyone can’t have San Diego weather year round ☺️☺️. Maybe instead of complaining about the weather , we should be making sure that we aren’t ending up some place where the weather just has one setting and it’s just always Hot all the time and no hopes for it to freeze over☺️☺️
- If there is an art form in the west that we have down to a science, it’s the art of complaining ☺️☺️, and we have mastered it.☺️ We complain about our jobs and others complain about the lack of gainful employment. We don’t often make the connection between our vocations and all that they allow us to experience, such as keeping food on the table , keeping the lights on , or being able to drive a swanky auto ☺️☺️. I know what a battle it can be to not take people for granted, because sometimes familiarity breeds contempt. It’s not what we shoot for, it’s just often to much auto pilot or maybe entitlement.☺️☺️ Now take that information and apply it to your health. It’s something that we all to often take for granted and we on a regular basis don’t pay attention to it until we no longer have it, that’s right when it’s up and gone. Talk about things that we complain about that we should absolutely be praising God for is for a faithful partner or spouse. Yeah!, they have their quirks and flaws , far from perfect, but we just randomly forget that we aren’t perfect either. We see their stuff , while sweeping ours under the hardwood floors, the carpet isn’t going to cut it☺️☺️.
- If you have someone who loves you, comes home to you, puts up with you and are mostly kind, then you should hold onto them with everything that you have , because it’s gets cold and lonely without that, quick, fast and in a hurry ☺️☺️.
- We can complain about so many things, from work, to family, health, finances, our personal relationships and the one that just takes the cake for me is those who complain about living in the best and freest country of all times. Yeah! , I get that it’s not perfect and that’s mostly because of people like you and me☺️☺️. We do more to detract than we do to attract this magnificent land that God has laid His blessings upon. I’m not really a fan of go fund me. I get that it serves a purpose and it has helped people, but probably just as many if not more people have been swindled and fraud hoisted upon them on that site. That being said, all of the people who are just so tired of being here, for whatever reason and whatever political party, and from whatever origin, I would be more than happy to start a go fund me campaign to plant you some place else, where hopefully you will find the happiness and contentment that you just don’t have here. Yes, don’t just threaten to leave, but actually pack up and let the people who want to be here, stand on the docks waving goodbye and good ridden. I don’t even think that we are going to fuss about who takes out the trash, it just needs to be done ☺️☺️.
- I should apologize for that, but please don’t hold your breath ☺️☺️. It’s like people who refuse to take care of their aging parents. They have given you so much and the very reason that you exist and you want to take a pass🥲🥲. I’m speaking from experience and some times it’s just , I got to role up my sleeves and make this happen. One more thing for all of the haters fleeing the country because of politics, you aren’t going to make it with a dirt floor living in a grass hut, but by all means please don’t let that stop you from trying ☺️☺️
- A Bone to pick with you. Let’s just flip it on its head, shall we? We complain about anything and everything, and as I said they are often blessings in disguise. If that is true, which it is, then where is the gratitude? Where is the praise? We make all sorts of plans, but we don’t know what the future holds or what it will be like. Actually, we don’t know about next week, or tomorrow, or even the next five minutes, but we carry on as if we do….and there is still this lack of gratitude and praise for the One who holds all things together. Is that from a place of arrogance? , just asking and curious.
- Much of what I write about is from taking a really long and sobering look in the mirror ☺️☺️. I have always been a fan of math, not necessarily word problems ☺️☺️. I like it when the numbers come out in my favor, and perhaps that’s no surprise . Most of us like it when numbers trend in our favor. It could just be our team having more points than their opponent, or a little extra interest in a savings account. What about when it’s a not so much?; and we have all been there. It’s more month than money ☺️☺️. Here is my crazy numbers not trending in my favor. It’s when I have way more petitions, complaints, prayer request, or however you wish to frame it, than I do praise and or gratitude. There should be this huge gasp of how is that even possible?☺️☺️ . Maybe it’s just become a cliché about counting our blessings, but if it is, then again just sad!
- God has always been there, and comes through, maybe not always in the way that I hoped for, or dreamed about, but still there. I can’t even count the times that He has picked me up and dusted me off. Always there caring for and forgiving me when I mess up, which I actually happen to be pretty good at ☺️☺️ . Always there as in being my biggest fan and constantly cheering me on . Sometimes I just wonder what do have to complain about or have a fit over. My praise needs to be and should always be greater than any request or complaint that I can bring before God. Just take a moment or two and just think about it and then let the praise flow from your heart and your mouth.
- God never wanted us to be without hope and that is why He sent his son, Jesus. He never wanted us to be on the short end of the stick. He gave the best and loved extravagantly, so don’t let the bone to pick be you not accepting His marvelous gift❤️.
- Till Next Time✌️ Peace!
- Sandy The Southerner
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