Hey, thanks for joining me. I think that sometimes I'm a magnet for trouble, but there are definitely days that I hang a big old bullseye on my back, and today is going to be one of those days☺️☺️. Just a feeling that I've got. We live in a day and age where gender is such a hot button for what seems to be so many. I'm being kind, because I really don't believe that it's so many. I believe that it's a minority of people who have marbles rolling around and yes hanging out with a few lost screws. ☺️ We use to just say a few fries short of a happy meal and that's probably the more accurate description, because they are some of the most unhappy people that I have ever seen in my life. Whether it's just resting Bitch face, or that constipated look of it's been longer than a few days, ☺️☺️, you know the crowd that I'm talking about. They are few in number, but most just don't know that by all of the noise that they make, and the powerful alliances that have been built over the years , while the rest of us have been turning a blind eye, or just not caring enough to help them seek the emotional and psychological help that they need. They have festered and morphed into something that can not bring the words to their mouths to know what a woman is. That's right!, it's a great mystery as to what a woman is, just like they just magically appeared overnight from some distant planet. They are loud and proud , and we must not forget clueless. It's not a dig, it's just what they say about themselves....they don't know what a woman is. ☺️
If there has ever been any question about the squeaky wheel getting the grease, this group has personifies it in type cast. ☺️ The obvious question should be, how did we get here with this blurred confusion over gender? There is a bunch a bunch of politics here that I really don't want to get into. Where there is politics, you can be sure that religion and sex aren't far behind and usually the driving force behind it all is money, power and control under various disguises, with secret agendas. I have to be careful here or I'm going to sound a lot like the conspiracy nut guy☺️☺️. Instead of digging a hole that I'm probably not capable of digging myself out of, I want to look at some of the things that we have abandoned, that just possibly help get us onto the road about what a woman is or a woman is not.
Some of you may remember "Three Times A Lady " as a very beautiful song that was done by Lionel Richie back in the day. Well he sang about some very specific romantic moments in a relationship, I believe that he kind of left the story a little incomplete. I'm a little bit of an old school person, not about everything, but I am firmly in agreement with God creating them male and female. We are together as human beings, but two completely different make ups and I believe that was intentional on God's part. He didn't put us here to figure it all out for ourselves, but He put a lot of the basic building blocks here to give us a leg up and part of His design was for males and females to work together. We were supposed to compliment one another and appreciate the differences between us. The temperaments are usually very different, but there is some basic hard wiring that separates the sexes, or we'll at least there use to be☺️☺️. There is distinction, but no where in scripture does it say that men and women are not equal partners in life or ruling over God's creation. Physically women are usually smaller in stature and less physically strong , but they usually counters that with being stronger emotionally and of course being the givers of life. If you have any sense of women being inferior to men, then you just have to give that a rest. Women are brilliant and extremely capable of standing on their own accomplishments.
This maybe one of our first errors and it's the idea that women have to be competitors with their male counterparts. Maybe one of the biggest lies that came out of the sixties and seventies is that you can have it all. You can do it all and be it all. When we have extra work or responsibilities thrown us at work, we usually feel the pinch of something has to give. There are only so many hours in a day, and it's the same for everyone. I get that corporate America has adopted the mentality of doing more with less, and those chickens will show up to roost later ☺️☺️. Almost everything in life has limits unless you were born with that silver spoon in your mouth ☺️. The culture has changed and working remotely has become somewhat popular, but a full time demanding career, doesn't always play out well with raising a family. Yeah, yeah, it's been done before, but has it been done well? Have you missed things at work because of family and kids? Usually not , because they are pretty good at letting us know when we have missed a deadline, meeting, or letting you know that they own some part of your weekend ☺️. It's almost always missing first steps or words, a recital, or interviewing the young man who thinks that he can just blow the car horn and your daughter is going to run out to meet him, before he meets you☺️. Yes it's old fashioned, but it sets a tone.
I'm not going to deny that competition is good, but not in personal relationships, or when women feel that they have to become or act like men, to just garner the same respect, or get a seat at the table. Yes the system is somewhat broken and unfair. We have obliterated traditional norms for over seven decades now, and there is no clear path as to what is or isn't anymore, and often it comes down to basic survival. I have seen the clips of the man getting the nod over a woman who is just as qualified if not more so, simply because he is seen as the bread winner for his family. Women aren't always usually seen in that light, even though the reality can be very much the same. I get that the good old boys club is alive and well, but it's being dismantle at a record pace , with women CEOs closing in on about forty percent of businesses, along with many women start ups after having enough of being looked over and deciding to hang out their own shield.
Things that we have abandoned includes chivalry . There is usually a price to pay and it can work both ways, when we do the right thing and when we don't." I got this" is probably one of the things that has us jacked up the most . I think that its the battle cry of the feminist as they repell masculinity and as men run around as if their testicle haven't dropped yet ☺️☺️. Men are simple creatures and we can be a little lazy or as we like to call it the path of least resistance ☺️☺️. As we have gotten push back about opening doors or helping with a coat or jacket, or even pulling out a chair, anything that holds a woman in a place of honor. The feminist see that as weakness and they frown upon it. You only have to wrap a dog with a newspaper so many times before they know not to piss on the floor. Men being the pups that we are, have backed way the hell off, and are actually intrigued to see if you really have this☺️☺️. We don't usually get stronger by making weaker moves. I would dare say that some men are actually confused about when it's ok to be a man and when it's not. The answer is , if you are a man or are the man , then be the man, even when its unpopular or a hard call at the time.
We have pulled so far back from who God has called us to be , that we are way to often quite comfortable with the woman doing it all, and I mean everything from the parenting to taking out the trash ☺️We don't even take the roll of help mate; but it's more like bystander🥲 and observer. There seems to be no time constraints on when the apron strings are cut from mother, as you see men well into there forties, fifties and beyond still looking to be taken care of . The wires are crossed and we now live in the age of two mommy's or two daddies and we wonder why there is so much confusion about gender. Life has been turned upside down and the traditional nucleus families only is represented by thirty- nine percent of homes now. There are always the unexpected things such as both parents being killed in a car accident and then being raised by grandparents or aunts and uncles and thank God for all who step up, but there are plenty of instances of us wanting to conduct a social experiment with our kids and families as well. No one to blame but ourselves, families aren't being torn apart and sold off as they once were, and we did make a strong recovery from those dark days , that is until we decided to do it another way, our way and what seemed right to us. If you have ever put a man or woman before your minor children outside of a marriage, then that's you doing it your way.
Ok, yes, a little off track, so let's see if we can recover from the derailment ☺️☺️. There is something out there known as a proverbs thirty- one woman, and it's a detailed description as to what a godly woman should be. It puts on an amazing display of something that I don't even believe is possible. I think that its one of those things of shoot for the moon and at least you will land amongst the stars if you don't make it. The air is so rare up there, that there hasn't probably ever been one single woman on the face of the earth to accomplish it. However if you could just possess some of the qualities and attributes, then you would do well. It's a picture of a super woman, which would lead us to believe that you could do it all and have it all. This is a picture of a woman who is after God's own heart and she is doing this by the power and direction of God, but under the leadership of a man . I just did a whole spill on men neglecting and forfeiting their right to lead, so it's not just about being lead, but being lead by the right man and in the right way. A good leader is someone who knows how to follow first themselves. If a man isn't following God, he's probably not going to be the best leader. God set the standard pretty high for the role of leadership and He spelled it out as to love them in the same way that Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for the church. That means that the man is supposed to be the first line of defense for his family and home. That means that he needs to step up and take the bullet for the family regardless as to whatever it may be. Supposed you don't have your signals clear about who is responsible for what , then as you both try to do the others part, it's like leaving a gap in your security system. Then your kids can become exposed and the target. I think of it as a pop fly in baseball and no one calls it as I got it and the ball just falls to the ground right between three different players, a tragedy of sorts, but in real life , can be so much more detrimental.
I feel like there is a decent amount of push back, when we talk about leading and following. We sometimes feel put upon when we are required to step up or more so when we are in the place of a follower, as if it's something that we can't do on our own, but we have tried and failed miserably. Our warrior hearts always seeking independence and autonomy. Everyone needs to know their spot , their place, where they fit in, and there is security in that...no dropped balls .
Still the question stands as to what is a woman.? Well in terms of a traditional setting a woman is a help mate. She is someone who is supposed to come along and assist. She is not supposed to be used as a human shield as a man quakes in his shoes behind her. Once upon a time, it was clear that women were called to the role of motherhood. I know that there are sideshows out there, but only women can bring new life into the world . It's not to say that all women are called to be mothers, no more than everyone isn't called to be married. There is a gift of singleness and the same holds true for women who choose to never exercise those uterus ☺️☺️. Women bring a unique perspective to the table as they don't think like men do and again I believe that goes back to design of the creator. This is truly the place where to heads are better than one. Each bring a perspective, both the male and female and it should workout to something in unison and a new calibration should come forth from the two different perspectives. God didn't create us to be independent of one another, but together in harmony. Women are usually more caring and sensitive then men are, they see things in a way that most men, just don't.
There have been countless analogies about women being like flowers. Some have a sexual overtone to them, but many are just about how a woman can just blossom under the right conditions. Much like plants and flowers need rain and sunshine and nutrients to flourish, the same can be said of women. Women soar in a secure relationship. Like pieces on a chess board, she is calculating multiple moves ahead to ensure, that kids and home life are running smooth and effectively. This is kind of like a happy place for most women, things running without hiccups ☺️☺️. Life doesn't always cooperate with this plan, so she can wear the fireman's helmet as she puts out fires. The nurse role to take care of skinned knees and bruised feelings . And it's so true that behind every great man is a great woman, be it wife, mother, or even an encouraging sister. Women are multi faceted creatures for a whole multitude of possibilities. We can really get wrapped around the axle when it gets to be about taking a submissive role under the leadership of a man. Again it's about the right guy, and God calls us to mutual submission to one another, so it's not like one is superior over the other, but more so a team effort. I think the word submission has just become a dirty word in our culture today with all of the fierce independence of doing it and having it my way. The original idea was to become a part of something that is bigger than just yourself. We have seen it over and over again how a couple can accomplish so much more together, than as an individual.
Blinders are a great comfort in life to us , only being able to see or process things out in the way that we want them to be, but also devastating when they don't just work out that way. Most are just afraid to speak it or acknowledge it, but there is nothing as sexy as a woman who knows how to follow and to come along side in all of the right ways . She doesn't feel inferior, but trust in the correct leadership, knowing that it's what's best for the whole. Just a side note, but if your woman has an Adam's apple, five O clock shadow all the time, or use to be the owner of a penis, you just might want to return that to Frankenstein' lab, because that is not what a woman is.☺️☺️
